The S word SEX!

Did I just say Sex in the title of my blog for this week? Well the answer is yes, yes I did. In fact my entire blog is going to be about the big three letter s word  sex. I would like to especially discuss why it is such an important thing and how men and women differ in there sexual tendencies.
 
 When people hear and think of sex there are a lot of different things that may pop into there heads. Some feel that sex is something evil and worldly that should not be talked about. Others may feel that it is only the means to have children. Some think it is something beautiful that is natural and a part of life. Depending on your perspective sex can be any of the three. I would like to share a quote from class this week " Sex can be a selfless act for great satisfaction, or a selfish act for great disaster". So if we want to only think of ourselves it can be something cold and worldly, or if we think of our partner it can be something beautiful and a charitable service that binds the couple together. When a couple is engaging in sexual relationships they are boot vulnerable to each other. Sex is a way to be the closest ever to your spouse physical, mentally, and spiritually. It can be a service that is like none other for couples to participate in.
   Even though sexual relations can be such a wonderful experience for couples to engage in together there can be some complications that arrive simply because men and women are different and have different sexual tendencies. Lets start off talking about men. Men tend to think more often about sex than women are. Not only is it more often on there minds but they can be in the mood a lot more often than women can. During sexual intercourse men often reach a heightened state of sexual arousal a lot quicker than women do and can reach the point of an orgasm a lot quicker. After they reach orgasm his state of arousal quickly declines .It in fact has been said related to this that men are like a toaster oven and a  women is more like a crock pot. Unlike men women often have a lot of things on there mind and do not think of sex as often as men do. Likewise it can be harder for women to be in the mood for sexual relationships to take place. For instance if a man had a hard day at work that maybe was emotionally draining he still could be in the mood for sex latter on. However, a women often will not be able to get aroused if there is too much or going on in her life and on her mind. Finally as mentioned earlier it also takes women a lot longer to get warmed up and aroused and a women reaches the point of an orgasm at a lot slower rate than a man does. When she has reached that high point of an orgasm she also tends to stay aroused and at a heightened state for a longer time compared to men.
   So you can only imagine that because of this there are a lot of potential problems or incompatibilities that can happen in a relationship. For instance imagine if a man is in the mood for sex and his wife is having a stressful week and is not in the mood at all when he is? What will he think of her? He may think things like that his wife is a selfish person who doesn't care about him, or he may think that she doesn't even love him or is sexually attracted to him. On her side she may think that her husband is selfish and only cares about sex but does not care about her emotional state and how she is stressed out. Another incompatibility that may arise comes from the differences in the patterns and speed of arousal for each gender. For men it may be no problem that they can get aroused quickly and be a go getter and have an orgasm in a relatively short amount of time. However, how does his wife feel who may just be starting to warm up and get turned on just when her husband is coming down from his orgasm and getting ready to fall asleep. You can only imagine how this can lead to potential problems and even the possibility for women to not want to engage nearly as much in sex.
  Sex is a wonderful thing but a lot more complex than some imagine. It can be an extremely vulnerable experience that can either be wonderful or terrible. This is why it is important to realize the differences between you and your spouse and there gender typical sexual tendencies and also your spouses feelings. Hopefully through today's blog post you learned something that will help you see sex as even more beautiful and important.